I Love You..! It feels amazing when someone says these words to us. Let the person saying them be anyone, a son to a mother, a daughter to a father, a fan to acelebrity, a kid to a furry cat, most importantly a boy to a girl. We have seen in many movies or read in books that how it feels when you are in love. It’s like “Butterflies in Stomach”(I wonder how that feels), feeling everything around you is made to reflect your love even the things you hated, etc.
Above all there is some amazing bullshit about love and relationship which is usually referred to as “True Love” and “Perfect Relationship”. First of all there is nothing like true or perfect. It’s either love or no love. On this contrast you can say if its no love it should be hate. Remember if you hate someone that means you loved them once, either of the ways you still have feeling and you still think about that person, then by love and now by hate. It doesn’t make much difference until they are in your mind. Lets take a dog as an example, it shows unconditional love towards its owner.
How can you differentiate between love and true love? No, you can’t because both are same. The dog protects the owner from strangers either by bark or bite.This doesn’t mean that dog hates the stranger or have some bad feelings for him. Its just that it is protecting its owner from some unwanted situations. When I say ‘No Love’ this is what I meant, the dog has no feeling(neutral) over the stranger. Its love on its owner that made the dog to stand as guard. So don’t confuse yourself be kind to one another and love every one.
Talking about love I would like to talk about a common dilemma most of us have. Am I in love? Is this love? How do we know whether we are in love? These are the questions that many people get in mind when they start having feelings towards someone. The crazy thing is we never doubted love of our mother, father, friend or even a dog but when it comes to life partner we start dwelling up on every feeling we have got. Its called fear, the fear of failing in relationship. Mostly this tends to happen with people who seek for long term relationship. The answer for all these questions is so simple, its all about mind. You are in love when you decide and accept the other person with their differences without any conditions for your rest of the life. That is what it all takes, a decision, an effort to understand them.
The bestselling author Nicholas Sparks said: “I finally understood what love meant…love meant that you care for another person’s happiness more than your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be.”
The great poet Oscar Wilde said: “Women are made to be loved not understood.” Similarly another great person said “Men should be well understood”. So either ways, it may lead to differences in a relationship. As mentioned before “Perfect Relationship” is also a phrase made up for our own happiness but to mention every relationship is one of a kind and is perfect in its own nature. So one cannot take out a relationship universally and say this is perfect relationship ever. All it takes for a successful relationship is responsibilities and understanding each others differences.
Let me make you realize some amazing thing we all miss. When one says “I Love You” to you it means he or she is saying it to “YOU” the one that is inside your body, that has no name, or identity. Your body is the container of some unknown life or energy that is within. That feeling being shown towards that life is called love. Your body is just an apparel or cover for your life or energy or soul. The person who loves real “YOU” not your identity is your soulmate or love because once you die your identity is left behind but your love is carried upon.
There is another big myth about LOVE from HEART. There is no such bullshit. Your heart just pumps blood it doesn’t have that capability to feel love(I feel it doesn’t have time for love ’cause its busy pumping). Its all about SUB-CONSCIOUS mind. All your feeling and other emotional content origins from this mysterious part of our mind called sub-conscious.
The most amazing thing about love is its like a liquid that takes shape of the container into which its poured. We have different lives from each other so one understands love in a different way compared to others.
Its obvious that we face problems in our relationships, a relationship without a problem is weird. People in love fight because……………………………………………..
Don’t look for a big phrase. You fight because you are asshole at times. When you accept this truth then you live a happy life.
Don’t change yourself for love, be a better person to love.
Don’t struggle for love, just stop for a while and experience it you will learn the magic it does upon a person.
Be wise in taking a decision especially when it comes to love, because nobody hurts you without your permission…!
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